What is trust, really? As a couples therapist, I’d define it as the feeling that your well-being matters to another person, and that this care shows up in their actions. We can... Read more »
When we’re in a good season and life is going well for us, ask most of us what we’re grateful for, and the answers could likely come quickly. We might start by... Read more »
Ruth is not interested in optimization in the tech-bro sense, but she is interested in growth. She knows she feels better when she has a sense that she is quietly improving her... Read more »
As a nation with a civil war in its history, we in the U.S. can hardly say we’re more polarized than we’ve ever been. But it feels like a close second sometimes,... Read more »
Before the development of language, our ancestors likely communicated and thought primarily through imagery and sensory experience. This may help explain why the mind remains so facile at using imagery as a... Read more »
Most people expect that once established, a long-term romantic relationship should be exclusive. All other potentially romantic connections should be severed, and the couple should be able to move on with their... Read more »
Most people assume that saying “sorry” often is a sign of good manners, even emotional maturity. In other words, it serves as proof that someone is self-aware enough to notice when they’ve... Read more »
The form at the doctor’s office asks for your emergency contact, and you sit there, pen hovering over the line, not sure whose name to write. It’s a small moment. But if... Read more »
In my previous post, I explained the two types of “Mate Value” that affect attraction. There’s “Consensual Mate Value” — or the immediate attractiveness a person has when you don’t know them,... Read more »
On the outside, everything looks normal, even positive. People prone to overthinking have friends, go to work, pay their bills, and show up for many parts of their lives. For sure, many... Read more »